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5 Curly Hair Tips for Young Girls (From a Former Frizzball)

April 12, 2021

advice for young curly hair girls

In elementary school, my curly hair was unmanageable. I was old enough to start taking care of it myself, but I wanted to be just like my friends who didn’t need to do anything, so I didn’t do anything. And while my Mom had curly hair too, she straightened it a lot - the 90s and early 2000s were all about sleek, flat ironed hair. 

There are very few photos of me from this time in my life, but when I do see one, I feel sad for that little girl who hated her hair.

Recently, a colleague asked me about my curly hair routine - while she has straight hair, her elementary school-aged daughter has curls, and they are learning how to care for it.

So, that got me thinking. What do I wish I knew back then? Here’s my best advice for young girls with curly hair (and their parents!):

Throw Away the Hairbrush

I know, I know. It sounds counterintuitive, but most curly girls don’t use a hairbrush. Brushing dry, curly hair will leave you with a very frizzy mane. 

Comb with Conditioner. Always.

This is the absolute key to my curly hair routine - every time I wash my hair, I comb it through with conditioner using a wide-tooth comb. Instead of using a hairbrush, this is the time where you get all the knots out of your hair.

Before I implemented this practice in middle school, my hair was always a knotted mess. Sometimes if I feel like my hair isn’t that knotted, I’ll use my fingers to comb my hair through, but I never, ever skip it entirely. 

Get a Curly Hair Haircut

I wrote about this in a previous post, but I’m always surprised when people don’t know about this. Everyone has a different curl pattern (and many people have multiple curl patterns within their head of hair), and curls look very different wet than dry. Once you find a hairstylist that specializes in curly hair, there’s no going back. 

If I’m not sure if a new salon or stylist will cut my hair dry, I always call and ask. It’s that important.

Don’t Shampoo Every Day

There’s really no need to use shampoo more than a couple of times a week. I know this seems weird, but nobody will know if you skip right to the conditioner. 

curly hair shampoo with no sulfates

Use Product - and Probably More than the Bottle Suggests

I laugh maniacally whenever I read a bottle that suggests using a “quarter” or “dime”-sized amount of product. Once you find a leave-in product (for after you get out of the shower) that works for you, you’ll likely use much, much more every day. And that’s okay.
curly hair tips for young girls and their parents


If you’re a fellow curly-haired person, what else would you want curly young people (or their parents and loved ones) to know? I’d love to hear from you on Instagram!